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When you are starting out online never forget that you are starting out in exactly the same position as when any of the “Guru’s” headed off on their path to successs……and that is with nothing! Your subscribers will opt in one by one,it is the same for all of us!

Always admire people who are more successful than you as success is achieved far faster by using association….allow me to explain!

Because one of the minds primary functions is to prove itself right. According to social psychologist Leon Festinger, the state of trying to hold two inconsistent ideas, beliefs or opinions( known as ‘cognitive dissonance’ is so uncomfortable that people will unconsciously seek to reduce  the conflict by changing one or both of these ideas so that it will fit together better.

In other words, your mind wants to stay consistent to whatever you have previously said or demonstrated you believe to be true. You can’t become rich or succesful if you are constantly slagging rich or successful people off!- your mind won’t stand for it. Similary, you can’t sit around resenting confident, succesful people and be suprised that your mind doesn’t want to join them.

Sadly my Grandma died a few years ago and although she is sadly missed even today I always smile to myself when I hear the phrase “Birds of a Feather Flock Together !” for I fully understand what old “Gwenie” was talking about ….even at 79 ! I suppose you are always wiser after the event so to speak!

So if there is a part of you that really wants to be more confident and successful but another thats not so sure remmember ……success by association, practice this technique, you will find it easier and easier to ressolve any internal conflict in this way and you will become focused like a laser beam ……on building that list !